"We don't have to have sex. I'm happy just wanting to wake up next
to you tomorrow."
The key is to be caring, empathetic and patient. Even if she verbally
and physically leads you to sleeping with you, it's a good idea to check in
with her. The more connected partners are with each other, the more
aligned their expectations are, the better the sex will be.
Give more than you take, enrich her life with great experiences,
including and specifically during sex. This means spending some time
getting to know her body. Use foreplay to build a roadmap of her
erogenous zones. Below I'm going to share my "Love Roadmap" that you
can use to help you with foreplay, and mutual sexual exploration.
The first thing you should remember about having good sex is that
great sexual partners pay attention to each other's needs and
communicate well. Talking during sex? Yes, my friend. And if you do it
the right way it will be a big turn on.
Communicate and respond with words and body. For instance, if she
suddenly wants to roll you over and kiss you – forget about the roadmap
and let her do that. If she wants to go down on you, decide if that's what
you want and go for it or talk with her about what you want. Just pay
attention and communicate. That said, here's something fun to try –
enjoy!
The Love Roadmap Start by kissing for a while.
After a comfortable amount of time, take her hand and say, "I want
to kiss all the parts of your body that others forget to kiss. If you feel
uncomfortable tell me to stop and I will."
Kiss the inside of her wrist.