Practice seeding dates, and use texts to move towards those dates.
You shouldn’t have to convince someone to hang out with you over the
phone.
Your Text Dates Always Flake
Are you the guy who gets dates but is always having them cancel?
Even worse, do you have dates who don't show up? Sure, you get her to
agree to a date, but the date itself never seems to materialize. What are
you doing wrong?
There are four major possibilities:
- You’re not building enough value: This means you need to work
on building value through identity stories, routines, and active
disinterest until you receive a few indicators of romantic interest,
before moving on. - You’re not showing interest: Remember, you don’t show interest
until she’s interested in you. If you’re sure you have interest,
make sure you’re returning the interest, before you set up the
date or get the phone number. - You made her uncomfortable, and she gave you the number just
to get you to go away. You will know this is the case if you’re
getting numbers very early in the interaction and they’re always
flaking. This means you have to go all the way back to working
on starting conversations, that’s where the root of the problem is,
they were made to feel uncomfortable from the start. - She’s actually busy. People have lives, sometimes they don’t
include you. If you’re seeing a pattern, where lots of women are
flaking on you then refer to possibilities one and two.
Your Texting Makes Her Uncomfortable
There are the guys who come on too strong. The guys who have
women responding at first. But then those responses become "K" and
other signs that you’re being awkward, creepy or otherwise making her
uncomfortable. That's a bummer, and it can be hard for men to be honest