If you have trouble doing this face to face, set up a fantasy exchange.
You each write some down on a piece of paper, seal it in an envelope and
open them at the same time.
Will she want to do everything you want? Maybe. You'll be
surprised. And the list of stuff she's willing to try is almost certainly
going to be longer than the list of things she won't even think about.
What's more, she's going to be more likely to try the things you want if
you're also willing to try some new stuff. So man up and have a talk
about it.
Chores
It sounds boring, but one of the biggest things you can do to keep a
relationship healthy is doing chores. Chores basically break down into
one of two broad categories:
- The One She Hates: Maybe it's laundry. Maybe it's dishes. Maybe it's
walking the dog. Whatever it is, there’s one chore that’s "hers" that
she just can't stand doing. Surprise her by doing it for her one day
without being asked. It's one of the simple, straightforward things
you can do that's going to make a huge difference to her. - Fixing Things: Even if you have the money to have everything fixed
or cleaned for you, take some time to learn how some of the stuff
around your house works. The fact that you can fix little mechanical
things or that you have some tricks for cleaning and doing repairs on
the house is attractive. Youtube can teach you how to install, fix, or
build most simple to moderately complex household things.
Breakfast in Bed
This is sort of like bringing her flowers, but it takes (a lot) more
work. First, you have to get up without disturbing her. Then you have to
make breakfast. Having a good breakfast spread or two in your cooking