If you want to learn to talk to people, then you’ll have to develop the
best, most seductive identity you can. We’re going to go over that in
detail later, in the chapter on generating value with your life story.
Step #1: OpenThis is the beginning. The place where you spark a conversation with
a woman or a group. Keep in mind that most women don't wander
around by themselves to be approached by you. So, the majority of your
approaches will be groups. This is also the step where most guys quit.
I’m going to teach you the principle behind what to do when you
approach, and then provide a few techniques that you can use to start
conversations. My goal for you is pretty simple:
Learn to start a comfortable conversation with total strangers.
Learn what makes people uncomfortable when they’re approached.
Learn how to alleviate the fear of the approach. (Something we call
"Approach Anxiety".)
If you feel like it’s too much, don’t worry – we’re going to break it
down, and there’s plenty of supporting videos you can watch by
following the instruction at the end of this chapter.
After practicing this material, you’ll have the confidence and the
skills to start conversations with almost anyone – most importantly, the
kind of women you've always wanted to talk to. I’ve had students
who’ve never cold approached anyone before. After a few weeks of
practicing the techniques I suggest in this chapter they were able to go to
a bar, point out someone they wanted to talk to and, at least, make a
conversation happen, if not more.
Step #2: Attract