Attract And Seduce

Chapter 4 :

Seductive Psychology, Mindset, and Inner Game

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the

strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them

better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose

face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who

errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort

without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the

deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends

himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph

of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while

daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid

souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

• Theodore Roosevelt

Seduction isn’t about you. It’s about the person you’re seducing.
Great seducers can put themselves in the shoes of the people they want to
seduce. They can look at themselves from other people’s perspectives,
and make strategic judgments about what to do next in a social situation.
That's how Cleopatra was able to seduce Julius Caesar and Mark Antony.

One of the most important skills you’re going to want to get familiar
with is to understand what other people think of you.

The Persona Exercise

This is all about seeing the way other people view you. To do this
you’re going to want to take notes and collect data. You can do this with
anyone you already know. Ask them this one simple question: "If you
had to describe me to someone who had never met me what would you
say about me?" Then ask, "What have I done or said that makes you
describe me this way?"