as many different answers as there are men in the Game. However, some
of the broader reasons that approaching women can be difficult include:
Personal Experience: We’ve all had experiences approaching
women where we felt hurt and humiliated. Unfortunately, our brains
are hard wired to remember these more than the times where things
went swimmingly well. These past experiences hold you back from
approaching in the future.
Lack of Experience: Conversely, there’s the lack of experience.
You don’t approach women much, so you think it’s a huge deal and
that it will inevitably end in disaster. You’ve built things up in your
head so much that the fantasy of what might go wrong is preventing
you from getting the experience you need to make things go right.
Lack of Story and Routine Stack: You don’t feel like you have
anything good to say, because you haven’t done the homework on
your stack. This is one of the easiest things to fix, as it’s just about
putting the time in on what you’re going to say. Remember that a lot
of Game takes place before you even head out for the night.
Pedestalization: You see a woman who you are overwhelmingly
attracted to and you think you can’t approach her because she’s "out
of your league". Apparently you haven’t seen Style standing next to
his wife. A big part of what we teach you in Stylelife Academy boils
down to this: Looks might matter, but not as much as you think they
do, and anyway, you can overcome your "attraction deficit."
When it comes right down to it, there’s only one answer to approach
anxiety: It’s approaching women over and over again, honing your
approach so that it becomes better over time. This will not only build a
bank of positive experiences, it will also help alleviate approach anxiety.