she is interested in you, then it's time to flip the scale: active interest
should then outweigh active disinterest.
The Three Connection PitfallsForgetting to compliment
One pitfall many men run into when they're trying to learn to
master the art of attraction and seduction is forgetting to compliment the
woman. Forgetting to compliment a woman once she is interested in you
can make you seem uninterested, and sometimes a little cold. It can also
make you seem like you’re only into her for her looks.
Complimenting too early
As I’ve mentioned a number of times in this book: seduction is
about timing, not speed. Guys often rush to compliment a woman when
they’re attempting a seduction. They’ll approach saying something like,
“I saw you from across the room and thought you were beautiful, I would
have been kicking myself all day if I didn’t come over and say ‘hello.’”
It sounds smooth, but is it effective?
Not likely. Here’s the deal: You have to have interest before you
show interest. Most guys don’t have interest when they approach. The
guys that do are either: 1. Very physically attractive to the woman
they’re approaching. 2. Known by the woman for some sort of attractive
reputation.
If you know one of these two things are true, then you have
value and can approach with a compliment. That said, you don’t lose
anything by approaching with a neutral opener, and taking the time to
make sure your assumption is correct, and learn something about her
before you compliment her.