DON’T SAY DO SAY
“You look great just the way
you are. I adore you.” And
then give her a hug.“You shouldn’t be so hard on
yourself. I’m not.”
“You sure turn me on. I think
you are a knockout.” And then
give her a hug and a kiss.“If you really want to lose
weight then you should get
help.”
“You look wonderful to me. I
love your body.” And then
give her a hug and kiss.“If you would come with me
to work out then you would
feel better about your body.”
If she says, “Do you think we are right for each
other? Do you still love me?”...DON’T SAY DO SAY
“Yes. I am madly in love with
you. You are the most special
woman in my life.”“Well, I think we still have
several things to work out.”
“Yes. You are the most fantast-
ic woman I have ever met.”“Well, time will tell. That’s
why we’re dating.”
“Yes. I love you more each
day.”“Why else would I be dating
you for a year?”
“Yes. My love for you grows
each day I know you better.”“How many times do we have
to go through this? I think we
have already had this conver-
sation.”
STAGE FOUR: INTIMACY / 97