The appropriate response when one falls in love in stage one
is to stay in stage one and restrain yourself from reacting and
responding to your partner in a manner that would be auto-
matic in stage five. Then, after a few more dates, move into
stage two (uncertainty) and try to maintain a sense of uncer-
tainty. Even if her heart is jumping for joy or he wants to fly
to Vegas to get married, they should proceed slowly, with
caution, and let the relationship pass the test of time.
If you are quick to fall in love,
be careful to proceed slowly and let the
relationship pass the test of time.A woman needs to remember that she is the jewel and a man
provides the right setting for her to shine. Instead of focusing
on pleasing him because he makes her so happy, she needs to
let him continue to please her with his actions. Instead of
stopping her life for him, she needs to let him demonstrate his
interest by making adjustments in his schedule for her.
A woman is the jewel and a man provides
the right setting for her to shine.When a woman allows a man to make little sacrifices for
her, he begins to feel that she is more special. She does not
have to do anything to earn his interest. He is already inter-
ested. The more he gives and she graciously receives, the more
interested he becomes. Without this insight, a woman can un-
knowingly prevent a man from wanting more of her by giving
too much in reaction, being too eager to please, too enthusiastic,
too accommodating, and too available. When a
132 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.