man feels he is winning a woman, she becomes increasingly
attractive. He is able to find the necessary motivation to move
on to the next stage.
WHEN A WOMAN MOVES FASTER
When a woman falls in love and behaves as if she is completely
won over, as she would be in stage five of a relationship, a
man will tend to stay in whatever stage he is in. There is no
motivation to move ahead. When a woman moves faster
through the stages, a man will tend to put on the brakes.
On Mars there is a very strong belief and instinctive tendency
not to deviate from a formula that works. If throwing the ball
a certain way wins the prize, then why risk changing? “Don’t
fix it if it isn’t broken” is a fundamental Martian strategy.
Women do not realize this difference, because on Venus it is
just the opposite. If something works well, then they think,
Let’s see how we can make it better. When a relationship is
giving a woman everything she wants, she is motivated to
make it even better, but a man thinks, Okay, I can relax; I must
be doing enough.
On Mars there is a very strong belief
and instinctive tendency not to deviate
from a formula that works.When a women reacts to a man as if she is in stage five and
he is not, he will not be as motivated to move on to the next
stage. He will tend to relax and stay put in whatever stage he
is in. This is true whenever a woman reacts strongly in a stage
beyond the stage he is in. Let’s explore a few of the possible
examples.
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