Some women will actually become interested in a man
simply because he was interested enough to ask. Once again,
his active interest generates within her a receptive interest in
him. Even though many women feel free to offer their number
to a man, they appreciate it much, much more if he asks. In
essence, these women are saying that when a man is actively
interested, they thrive.
In a similar way, when a woman is receptively interested in
a man, he thrives. When she reacts to his advances, he feels
more connected to her. When a man feels more connected, he
is automatically more interested and motivated to get to know
her. A woman’s receptive interest is the fertile ground where
the seed of a man’s interest can grow.
When a woman reacts to a man’s advances,
he feels more connected to her.This insight about the two kinds of interest is essential be-
cause it explains to a woman what makes her more interesting
to a man and it reveals to men the basic principle of how to
sweep a woman off her feet.
BUILDING THE FIRE OF ROMANCE
A woman’s receptive interest is like the kindling wood that is
necessary for building the fire of romance, while a man’s active
interest is the match required to light the fire. Striking the
match alone cannot possibly start the fire. A woman must
provide the kindling. Slowly the heat builds so that the bigger
logs have a chance to ignite.
A woman provides the kindling so
the heat of romance can slowly build,
eventually to ignite the bigger logs.180 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.