The best compliments regard something special either about
her person or about something on which she has spent a lot of
time, thought, energy, or creativity. These are a few examples:
SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT HER: I really like your smile, your
face, your blue eyes (or whatever color), your accent, the color
of your hair, the thickness of your hair, the shine of your hair,
your hands, your smile, your shiny teeth, your suntan, your
soft skin, and so on.
SOMETHING SHE HAS PUT TIME INTO: I really like that you are
involved with this group; I think it’s great that you volunteer
for this program; you are really very generous with your time
to help this way; and so on.
SOMETHING SHE HAS PUT A LOT OF THOUGHT INTO: I really like
the way you do your hair; I love the way you have arranged
your apartment; you really have a great sense of color; and so
on.
SOMETHING SHE HAS PUT A LOT OF ENERGY INTO DOING OR
BUYING: You look so great in that hat; you are really a great
tennis player; you are in such great shape; you look so healthy;
you look so beautiful in that jacket; and so on.
SOMETHING SHE PUT A LOT OF CREATIVITY INTO: You are a great
dancer; you have such rhythm; you write beautifully; you have
such a sense of style in the way you dress; and so on.
SOMETHING SHE IS PROUD OF OR FEELS COMPETENT ABOUT: You
are really a very talented designer; you are a brilliant organizer;
you are so committed to work; you are such a respon-
ACKNOWLEDGE MEN AND ADORE WOMEN / 211