Knowing what to expect in each of the five stages of dating
makes it incredibly easier. For example, in the first stage—at-
traction—when a woman understands why a man doesn’t call
back the next day, even when he is attracted and interested, it
frees her from worrying unnecessarily. By learning a new ap-
proach for calling him that doesn’t minimize her position with
him, it frees her even more to enjoy the dating process: no more
sitting by the phone wondering when he will call.
In a similar way, this understanding of our differences makes
the whole process of dating much easier for a man. For ex-
ample, when a man understands exactly what women need
and what he needs to do to satisfy those needs, then it gives
him the confidence that he can succeed in winning over the
woman he wants and loves. Quite often, what he would want
is not necessarily what she wants. By learning these differences,
he can understand what to do at each of the five stages.
THE POWER OF PREPARATION
When we are prepared for what is to come, we are not thrown
off guard, nor do we have to doubt ourselves. When our rela-
tionships make sense to us, we don’t make as many mistakes;
we are also able to learn from mistakes and are thus released
from making the same mistakes again and again. With this
understanding of differences, we can be released from repeat-
ing negative patterns.
Learning from mistakes helps prevent
the repetition of negative patterns.Understanding that men are from Mars and women are from
Venus will not necessarily make any date a lasting rela-
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