suddenly becomes more interested. She then blames him for
this, because she doesn’t understand her part in sabotaging
the relationship. She mistakenly assumes that he is not right
for her because he wants her more now that she decides to re-
spect herself and stop pursuing him. His renewed interest can
actually be a great sign.
Quite often a woman will decide to
end a relationship and then the man
suddenly becomes more interested.A seed cannot sprout unless it is given the right conditions.
Similarly, a man’s attraction and interest in a woman cannot
grow if she is too assertive and aggressive. When a woman
stops pursuing a man, she gives him the opportunity to find
within himself the desire to pursue. In early stages of dating,
his ability to be interested in her is like a burning candle: Too
much interest and pursuit from her side can easily snuff it out.
The five stages of dating ensure that you don’t have to take
unnecessary chances. Before marrying your partner, you will
have experienced that he or she fully knows you, likes you,
loves you, and is still attracted to you. Your partner is interested
in you without your having to play any games or try to be
more than you are. Having said all this, there are still ways for
women to call men without sabotaging the potential of a rela-
tionship.
This issue of whether a woman should call or not, particu-
larly in stages one and two of dating, can be critical in determ-
ining the outcome of a relationship. A deeper understanding
of the way men and women think and feel differently can create
many new options for a woman to be assertive and feminine.
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