In simple terms, a man needs a job and a woman needs
someone to hire. We have different needs but we perfectly
complement each other. We are a perfect fit. This difference
gives us insight into what is most important for men and wo-
men and reveals why romantic rituals are so important. Ro-
mantic rituals allow men to experience being needed, while
they give women the opportunity to let go of feeling so respons-
ible to give.
WHEN WOMEN GIVE TOO MUCH
When a woman gives of herself, even if she is appreciated and
rewarded fairly, she will not get what she primarily needs.
There are many successful women who are taking medication
or in counseling for depression. The source of their depression
is not that they don’t feel needed, but that they don’t get what
they need.
There is nothing wrong with women who give a lot. Giving
is an expression of love, and it is always good. The problem
comes up when women cannot get back the support they need
and deserve. When women give more than they are getting,
they become increasingly unfulfilled.
WHEN WOMEN ARE TOO RESPONSIBLE
When women are too responsible, they are also less attractive
to men. In the old days, a woman was in many ways helpless
to provide for herself. She clearly needed a man. This helpless-
ness actually made her very attractive to men, and gave a man
the confidence to pursue her and the sense of purpose and re-
sponsibility to provide for her and be supportive.
But times have changed and women are not helpless. They
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