do not need men the way they used to. With more advanced
education and job opportunities, women are more responsible
for themselves. While this is good, it creates new problems.
Sometimes the more successful and responsible a woman is,
the less inviting to a man she may become.
The more successful a woman is, the less
inviting to a man she may become.This doesn’t have to be the case. By recognizing that she can
still need a man in her life without having to be helpless, she
can be successful in attracting the right man for her. For a
woman to feel good about herself and also attract a man, it is
not enough to just need a man; she must become adept in
feeling and expressing her needs.
HOW TO NEED A MAN WITHOUT BEING NEEDY
Savvy women have realized that being needy is definitely a
turnoff. Unfortunately, many times they throw out the baby
with the bathwater. To avoid feeling or appearing needy or
desperate in any way, these women deny or rationalize away
any feelings of needing a man. In their minds, they can want
a man, they can like to have a relationship, they can choose to
be with a man, but it is not acceptable to need a man.
By taking a moment to see herself through the eyes of a man,
a woman can begin to understand that there is another option.
A woman can still need a man and not be needy or desperate.
From a man’s point of view, there is a world of
difference between a needy woman and a
woman who needs him.316 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.