feels the chemistry she has for him. His efforts convince her
that she could get the caring consideration, understanding,
and respect that she needs in a relationship. Let’s explore an
example of how emotional chemistry can be triggered.
Harry, an acting teacher, said, “I first met my wife, Trudy,
in one of my classes. She was a great student. I felt so attracted
to her when I first looked at her that I could barely teach the
class. When I thought about asking her out, I couldn’t even
breathe, much less think of what to say. Eventually I
summoned up my courage and offered to help her read scripts
after class. It was a memorable moment. The sparks were fly-
ing.
“The next week I assigned romantic scripts to act out. After
class, she asked me if I would read scripts with her again. I
was a bumbling idiot when I tried to talk with Trudy, but I
could read a script. Although someone else wrote the script,
when I read it Trudy was won over. To this day I still thank
Shakespeare. We both smiled that day and we have been
smiling ever since. Even to this day, I help her work on her
scripts. I love having a skill that she clearly appreciates.”
THE THIRD ELEMENT OF CHEMISTRY: MATURITY
The third element is maturity. Soul mates basically have similar
levels of maturity. In most cases, as we continue to grow older
we gain a certain depth in our lives. We will automatically feel
a chemistry with someone who reflects our level of maturity
or depth. This maturity does not necessarily have to do with
age, but it is a big factor.
One of the ways to experience this chemistry is to visit places
where you are assured of meeting people your age. School re-
unions are great for this. Even if you don’t meet someone right
away, by reconnecting to these people you
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