made him unattractive was not living up to his potential. By
holding on to habits that he was strong enough and mature
enough to release, he had made himself less attractive. Because
he made the commitment to change, they were both eventually
able to make the commitment to get married.
The More We Know, the More We Don’t KnowThe more we know, the more we don’t know. With the
wisdom of greater maturity, we naturally seek out additional
information on subjects that are dear to us. Another way to
find someone with your level of maturity is to take a class in
a subject that is important to your well-being.
Carol, an insurance salesperson, said, “I met my husband
in a Mars/Venus workshop. I was so impressed by his interest
in learning more about women and relationships. I thought if
there was anybody that I would want to marry it would be
someone who knew these things about men and women or at
least was interested in learning more. I guess I wanted insur-
ance.
“Right away I knew I could trust him. I felt it was fate that
brought us together. I helped out a little, however. I only took
seven workshops before I met him. The odds were in my favor
that I would meet a man interested in a quality relationship.”
Letting Go of the PastSometimes as we get older we just assume things will be the
same. We don’t realize that patterns can and do change. Both
men and women hold back from getting involved when they
assume that every relationship has to be the same. When we
take time to learn from the mistakes in our past
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