- Call up a friend’s date if and when they stop seeing each
other. Be certain your friend is no longer seeing the person. - Get involved with an old friend whose spouse has died or
who is now divorced. Even if there was no attraction in the
past, it may spring up now that your friend is available. - Join the Adopt-a-Single program. Ask a couple to adopt you
for a three-month period and introduce you to their friends.
Ask them how they met and then try going to similar places.
Spend time with couples who are happily married; whatever
it is they have will start to rub off on you. Having a positive
picture in your mind of what a relationship can be like will
also help you pick the right person for you. If you are negat-
ive about the opposite sex, then you will keep getting negat-
ive relationships. - Join a community cause or participate in a service activity
like feeding the poor or helping children without parents.
In the process, you will not only feel good but you will meet
people who admire you and appreciate your goodwill. This
will lead to meeting your soul mate. - Go to places where you have a lot of expertise and people
feel comfortable coming up to you for support or advice. Do
not hesitate to meet someone by offering your help or assist-
ance. - Take a class that is particularly popular because the professor
or teacher is so interesting and stimulating.
340 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.