- If you don’t like getting dressed up, then pick an event each
month where dressing up is required. Cruises are great for
this. There are many formal events. Every man looks great
in a tux, even if he doesn’t like getting all dressed up. Women
get a chance to shine when they dress up. - If you like to sit by the ocean and not at the pool on vaca-
tions, then try a change. Sit by the pool each day to meet the
people there as well. - If you don’t like the sand and prefer sitting around the
pool, try going for long walks by the ocean. Your soul mate
probably loves the sand. - If you don’t like sunbathing or you don’t have a tan, then
head for the resorts of sun worshipers. Your soul mate
probably loves sunbathing. - If you don’t like camping, start doing it. Hang out at wil-
derness stores and ask lots of questions. Get with some
friends and go camping in a place where you will also meet
other campers and hikers. - If you don’t like to bike, then start building up those
muscles and go on a group biking adventure. If you make
new friends, even when none of them is the one, they may
connect you to the right person. - If you don’t like to ski, then go skiing with friends and hang
out in the common areas where people eat and drink or
spend time in hot tubs or spas.
348 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.