- He feels the need for sexual gratification from a sexually
assertive or suggestive woman but clearly knows that he
would not like to pursue a relationship with her. - He wants to move in with a woman because he wants to
share the rent. Instead of moving in with her, he can easily
find a buddy to share a place with. - He wants to get intimately involved right after ending a re-
lationship. He is like a hungry person, starved for love and
companionship. His discernment is low. After he gets back
on his feet, he may easily lose his feeling of attraction to the
woman. - He feels a woman loves him so much that he doesn’t want
to end a good thing, but he clearly has no intention of mar-
rying her one day. - He is attracted to a woman because she says, “You are the
only man I have ever really liked. You are not like other
men.” This may sound like a compliment, but it is a sign
that she still has big issues about men. When she finds out
that he is from Mars like other men, there will be a big dis-
appointment. - He is involved with one woman and he feels chemistry for
another. Certainly this will happen, but if he encourages it
by pursuing or flirting with the other woman, he will exper-
ience even more chemistry with other women. In his primary
relationship, the chemistry will not have a chance to grow. - He feels chemistry for a woman who is not available or not
available to him. - He gets involved because a woman puts pressure on him,
but he doesn’t feel a sexual attraction. She may even assure
him that it will develop over time. While a woman’s sexual
feelings do develop over time, a man tends to feel it from
the start or not at all. - A woman says she loves him, but what he does is never
enough to satisfy her. He will have a love-hate relationship.
Certainly every woman continues to want more, but he
366 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.