- politely and casually looking her over as she looks away
- being interested in getting to know her
- liking her
- being attracted to her
- taking the risk of introducing himself
- asking some friendly questions
- looking at her when she talks
- giving her his full attention
- complimenting her
- letting her know at the end of the conversation that he would
like to call her (It can be so simple to say, “I’d like to give
you a call.”)
Whenever a man does something to make a woman feel
special, in her eyes he becomes more attractive. Women have
said in my seminars that even if they are not at first attracted
to a man, his interest makes him more attractive. If he takes
the risk of asking for her number or asking her out, she is in-
clined to say yes just because he took the risk. It makes her feel
special and she feels flattered.
When a man can do all of the above without being dependent
on getting anything else other than the pleasure of getting to
know her, this makes him even more attractive. A woman can
sense if a man’s ability to feel good about himself is dependent
on her responses to his advances. If she has to care too much
about his needs, if she has to be overly sensitive not to hurt his
feelings, then he becomes less attractive. When she is free not
to worry about him, but simply enjoy the fact that he cares
about her, then she becomes more attracted to him. Most men
don’t realize the incredible power they have to sweep a woman
off her feet. The understanding of how we are different gives
a man that power.
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