Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

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Model Marriage


4 Things Every Married Couple Must Accept



  1. Accept the Temperament of Your Spouse.^3

    • Your temperament + your experiences + Word of God = Your character

    • Do not try to change your spouse’s temperament. Rather pray that he/she
      will become more spiritually mature. (Refer to Chapter 42).



  2. Accept the “Masculinity” or “Femininity” of Your Spouse.

    • A man must accept that he is married to a woman not a man; so he must not try to
      suppress her natural feminine traits, like excessive talking.

    • She is also the weaker vessel and must not be expected to behave and function like
      a man.^4




Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour
unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace
of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

1 Peter 3:7


  • Women have things that appeal to them: dresses, weddings, chatting for a long
    time, cooking, details of issues and events, which a man may find “unnecessary”.

  • A woman must also accept that she is married to a man and not a woman. Men
    by their make-up are more robust, less chatty, and may not even notice the
    different colour schemes at a wedding. They are interested only in the major
    factors of an issue and not the details.

  • Accept these natural differences and flow happily with them.


What husbands often object to in wives:


  • That wives are sexually dull.

  • That wives talk too much and about trivial things.

  • That wives are petty and quarrelsome.


A man must accept that he is married to a woman, not to another man; so he should accept
what women like.


What wives often object to in husbands:


  • That they are too interested in sex.

  • That they do not help their wives.

  • That they do not talk enough to their wives.


A woman must accept that she is married to a man not to another woman; so she should accept
what men like, such as sex and food.

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