Chapter 2
The Official Recognition of a
Relationship by the Church
Three Reasons Why a Relationship Should Be Registered
Every church should have a register in which is recorded pertinent details of its members who
are intending to get married. This serves as the official recognition of the relationship by the
church, and should be done at least six months prior to the intended marriage. Why register?
I. To ascertain if some people are married already
Some couples may already have children from the current or a past relationship. In some
cultures, it is customary to have what is known as a traditional wedding ceremony. It is important
to know if the couple have performed the said rites or not. Any such ceremony, tradition or rite
must be brought to light. Failure to disclose such information may lead to a termination of the
relationship.
II. To ensure that all such relationships are not hidden
It is imperative that all relationships be open before God, the pastor and the church
congregation. Carrying out the relationship openly also helps to promote a healthy and
wholesome relationship.
III. To get to know the couple better
By registering the couple, you will learn about them in a more personal manner:- The couple’s full name (for completing the register).
- You can better assess their Christian commitment.
- Know the church of your member’s beloved, if not from your church.
- Probe their church activity levels.