Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

The Wedding Night

What to Do on the Wedding Night

1. The couple should have some lubricant at hand.


2. The bridegroom should not be in a rush to undress his bride. Your bride may be
   uncomfortable if you suddenly and hurriedly expose her body and see her naked.


3. The bridegroom should relax his bride by doing other social things, like having
   dinner, chatting, saying nice things to her and going for a walk, etc.


4. Upon arrival from the walk or dinner, the couple should start embracing, kissing
   and fondling. The husband may start undressing the bride [or they may undress
   each other]. He should be gentle and not rush to suddenly expose her nakedness.
   A woman is very conscious of her body, her figure, her breasts, her tummy, her
   size, etc. As you unveil your bride, slowly and gently, say only positive things and avoid
   negative remarks like: “I didn’t know you were so fat!” or, “Your breasts are very small.”^1


5. The light should be turned off to reduce shyness and tension.


6. The bridegroom must decide that he will not necessarily be able to penetrate or
   break through on the first night, especially if the bride is a virgin. This will make
   him less aggressive and less determined to cause damage.


7. The bride should lie down on her back (if necessary, with her buttocks on a pillow,
   and open her legs as wide as she can. She should have her legs bent at the knee,
   and the soles of her feet resting on the bed. A good pillow under the buttocks is very
   helpful as it elevates the hips and makes it easier to enter the vagina. It is advisable that the
   newly married couple should make love in what is known as the “missionary position”. It is
   a simple and gentle way to make love.

Fig. 18: The Basic Sex Posiiton

There is a great deal of body contact and good depth of penetration when couples make love
in this position. Another advantage is that it is possible for couple to kiss each other.