Grey Area on SexIn all cases, see your doctor and he will tell you what you can do. Men, it is a time for self-
control! You may at this time also practise superficial sex, i.e. sex at the opening of the vagina
without going deep, or lying on the woman’s stomach. Generally speaking, all sex in pregnancy
should be GENTLE!
(d) After Delivery:
i. Abstinence after delivery is important for about 4 to 6 weeks for the
following reasons:- to allow the wife’s vagina and birth canal to heal. Some may
be recovering from an episiotomy. - to prevent introduction of infection in the lady. The lochia (the
fluid which comes out of the vagina after the birth) is a very
infection-prone fluid and strict hygiene is important!
ii. Sexual happiness can continue after 4 to 6 weeks.
iii. Husbands, be gentle. There may be some pain or discomfort.
iv. Wives, be in the flow! You may experience a level of happiness you’ve
never had before.
- Sex During Church Activities
(a) The verse below says that after having sex, you are unclean for a while. However,
once again, we are not under the Law.The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both
bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even.Leviticus 15:18(b) You are free to have sex before and after church activities or prayer. It does not
demean your spirituality.- Sex During Fasting
(a) Fasting is abstinence from food. It does not also imply staying away from sex.
(b) At certain levels of fasting however, you may want to abstain from sex to help you
concentrate.
(c) Having sex does not make you unclean or unholy. The marriage bed is undefiled.Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and
adulterers God will judge.Hebrews 13:4(d) If you decide to abstain from sex during fasting, you must BOTH decide to do so
for a definite period. Also decide (together) when you will resume your normal
“activities”. This is the meaning of “except it be with consent”.