Model MarriageFor the LadyIt is considered to be her fault if any sin of immorality occurs. This is because even though
men are usually under a lot of sexual tension in the relationship, the woman must not give in to
this pressure.
(a) She should be encouraged to be in control of the relationship.
(b) She must have a great deal of respect for herself and never allow anyone to mess
about with her.
(c) She must be urged to keep her virginity intact so that when she happens to be counselling
in the future, she can say in confidence what she did not do while courting.^4Preparing for the Wedding (Checklist)
Discuss wedding preparations with the couple and give as much advice as possible. Touch on
the following:
(a) Choice of venue.
(b) Bridal dress––possibility of borrowing one must be mentioned.
(c) Suits (groom and best man).
(d) Car(s) to be used.
(e) Timing of wedding.
(f) Time of arrival of bride––alert them to things that delay brides.
(g) Scripture Reading––choice of couple.
(h) Chairperson (optional).
(i) Seating plan at the high table––include parents, chairperson, etc. (should normally
exclude pastors).
(j) Alcohol at wedding (bear in mind that some couples may not be in control on this
issue).
(k) Proposal of toast and response. Advise that it be made as short as possible with
rendition of thanks to God, parents, pastors and other key persons.
(l) Necessary permits (City Council, Local Council in charge of marriages in your
area or country).
(m) Picture-taking. Beware of “mercenary” photographers who have not been invited
but will come later with pictures they took to demand money.
(n) Video Coverage
(o) Decorations
(p) Honeymoon arrangements.
(q) Caution them not to use all their money for the wedding.