Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

The Temperaments and Sex

The Phlegmatic Husband and Sex

1. Does not say much about the bedroom life––is close-mouthed concerning his
   personal life.


2. Most comments about his intimate life will come from his angry spouse who is
   usually also very biased.


3. Usually would have little trouble gaining the love of his wife because he rarely
   embarrasses or insults her, sarcasm is just not his way and he will usually not
   embarrass her publicly or say anything derogatory.


4. Since he rarely gets angry or creates irritation, he usually extinguishes his partners
   fire by a soft answer before bedtime.


5. Phlegmatics are more prone to letting their wives initiate lovemaking.


6. His wife may soon feel unloved because he does not assume initiative in the
   bedroom––wife sometimes loses respect for him because he does not assert his
   manhood.


7. May produce resentment in his wife because he is stingy, politely stubborn and
   self-indulgent, which is equal to being selfish.


8. Usually finds it difficult to talk about anything and therefore does not tell his wife
   what he finds exciting about lovemaking.


9. He will silently endure less enjoyable relations with his wife for years and
   therefore rob both he and his wife of many ecstatic sexual experiences.

The Phlegmatic Wife and Sex

1. Will usually give in to her more forceful mate than to create turmoil.


2. Is easily satisfied and will often turn her attention to her children if trouble arises
   between her husband and herself.


3. She rarely initiates lovemaking but will almost never turn her husband down
   because she wants to please him.


4. Her lovemaking is greatly affected by fear and anxiety (she may fear pregnancy,
   disclosure, embarrassment and a host of other real and imagined dilemmas). She
   can easily be afraid that her husband may lose respect for her if she appears too
   eager or forward in lovemaking.


5. She must learn to create and maintain interest in her personal appearance like hair,
   attire and weight to please her husband.


6. Her disorganization may cause such resentment in her husband that it may spill
   into their bedroom life.


7. Her husband must endeavour to be a strong, gentle and thoughtful lover who
   learns how a woman functions best and take time to arouse her to orgasm.


8. Once she learns the art of lovemaking, her desire for the experience will
   overpower her tendency to be passive thus making her an exciting partner.