Model Marriage
- Focus on your heart––“...out of it (the heart) are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
A good heart will lead you to good places. - Use your personal popularity to promote good. For example, by engaging in
witnessing and interaction. - Spread your creativity––at special events at church and for others.
- Reach out to the lonely––you are a natural people person.
How to Be a Spiritually Mature Choleric Husband or Wife
- Ask yourself what makes you want to take control.
- Don’t think you know it all––only God does.
- Be humble.
- Learn to relax and know that the most important things in life are not just work
and achievement but family, spouse, and people––make time for them and
demonstrate love. - Acknowledge the truth that you are not in control of the universe––let God be
God. - Realize that you are not naturally a people-person and make a conscious decision
to work on that weakness. - Learn not to force your advice and opinion on people.
- Feel free to let others be right sometimes.
- Watch your tongue and try to be loving.
- Be courageous, provide leadership, crusade for a good cause, stay productive,
remain open and honest for these are your strengths. - Learn to forgive––vengeance is the Lord’s.
- Show love and compassion.
- Understand that many people are not as self-sufficient as you are. Others harbour
doubts, unlike the choleric. He must therefore patiently show kindness and
encourage his wife in lovemaking and she will be a better performer. - You must often give your spouse approval, love and acceptance.
- You must develop tenderness and affection for your wife and children. The
choleric must learn to say , “I love you” frequently and show his wife constantly
that he is proud of her. - Eliminate sarcasm. Disrespectful, unkind and resentful words from you will turn
your wife off. - You must be aware of the fact that the threat of an instant choleric explosion
prevents your wife from expressing her real emotions to you. This is a hindrance
to your love life. - The choleric wife must also walk in the spirit so as to conquer her hot temper and
sarcastic tongue.