Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Model Marriage

To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for

ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of

heaviness...

Isaiah 61:3

5. Accept your bereavement and move on.

Although the loss of your spouse may be devastating, be assured that God knows

about it, and will comfort you. The assurance that God cares and will take care of

you, should help you to accept your loss and to forge ahead with your life.

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as

be of a contrite spirit.

Psalm 34:18

6. Dream again. You may choose to remarry.

Approach the future with hope in God’s promises to take care of you and your

family. The Word of God declares that he is a father of the fatherless and a judge

of the widows. You must be fully persuaded that he is a good God who has good

plans for you.

A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his

holy habitation.

Psalm 68:5

Be encouraged to dream again. If you would like to remarry, trust the Lord for a

suitable partner.^4

Factors to Consider Before Remarriage

1. If you have children, your new spouse is going to “inherit” the children and
   become a stepmother or stepfather.^5 You may also become a step-parent.


2. Step-relationships are usually difficult and fraught with temptations, accusations
   and counter-accusations. Almost every such relationship becomes bitter and
   distorted with time.


3. You need to evaluate your preparedness to handle step-relationships as you decide
   to remarry. Are you ready to work hard towards a successful merging of two
   families?


4. Although you will think about your deceased spouse, you must constantly fight the
   temptation of comparing him/her to the new one in a negative way.
   NB: For additional insight, refer to Chapter 23 on “The Step Home”.