Chapter 60
Typical Questions of Married Couples
and the Answers
Introduction
The principle of acceptance is the key to resolving many marital problems. Remember, that
you and your spouse have two differing perspectives that may not necessarily be wrong.
Compromise must work in your marriage by each party esteeming the other as better than
himself/herself. A good compromise is created when you respect your spouse’s views and ideas
and you consider them to be better than yours.
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each
esteem other better than themselves.Philippians 2:3God expects you, as a married person, to endeavour to do your best in all that is expected of
you, while accepting the reality that you cannot personally resolve every problem in your
marriage––only God can. Know that you are not called to be a personal “Holy Spirit” to your
spouse; specifically, to convict of sin, of righteousness and of judgement (that is the work of the
Holy Spirit). Your duty is to inform your spouse of your concerns in a loving way and to leave
the rest to God after much prayer. Only God can change a person. It will also help you to seek
pastoral counsel and assistance.
Marriage often means that you may have to live with and contain an unpleasant aspect of your
marriage that has not changed yet. It may be compared to living with a chronic disease such as
asthma or diabetes. A person just contains or manages the disease so that it does not destroy the
rest of his life, which is good.