Typical Questions of Married Couples and the AnswersMarriage is about making compromises. If the husband does not like bathing, for the sake of his wife and the
marriage, he could begin bathing in the evening also. He must think in terms of two and not one.
(Refer to Chapter 8 pg. 28-30, “Love in Marriage––Agape”).
Q. She does not keep good hygiene so sex is an ordeal.
The husband must also find a nice non-offensive and loving way to draw his wife’s attention to the unhygienic
practices he complains of and help her to surmount them. After all, this is what marriage is about––to make each
other better than when we met. She must think in terms of two and not one.
(Refer to Chapter 8 pg. 28-30, “Love in Marriage––Agape”).Communication
Q. She’s always quarrelling with me, and threatens to leave the marriage afterwards.
A. This wife has violated the basic biblical principles of communication: “speaking the truth in love”. She
must know that in dealing with her spouse, there are still things she should not allow to proceed from her mouth. Let
the love of Christ constrain your speech and actions. Never threaten to quit the marriage; you are opening the door
for Satan to have an advantage over you.
Neither give place to the devil.
Ephesians 4:27Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use ofedifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.Ephesians 4:29
(Refer to Chapter 9 pg. 35,“Communication in Marriage––Some Examples of Things Not To Say”).
Q. She speaks disrespectfully to me when she is angry and corrects me in anger.
A. The wife must learn the rules of agape love: love is not rude, unruly; does not behave itself unseemly, etc).
As a wife you are not likely not be able to change your husband with your angry outbursts. This behaviour may cause
your husband to withdraw and keep to himself.
(Refer to Chapter 8 pg. 28-30, “Love in Marriage––Agape”).
Q. She easily takes offence and refuses to talk for days.
A. The characteristics of agape love emphasize that love is not easily provoked, and to live in silence for days
only deepens the strain in the relationship. Make the effort to get your offence off your chest, by walking in
forgiveness. A Christian is commanded by God to forgive.
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Ephesians 4:26
(Refer to Chapter 8 pg. 28-30, “Love in Marriage––Agape”, Chapter 9 pg. 32-33, “Comunication in Marriage
––Speak”).
Q. Sometimes the way my wife talks to me is very bad. She talks back anyhow and even raises her voice
in ordinary conversation.
A. This depicts a husband frustrated about the apparent show of disrespect and lack of circumspection in the
attitude of his wife when talking to him.
It must be borne in mind that at least two things determine the manner in which people speak: upbringing and
temperament. These two situations however, ought to be influenced by the Word of God once a person becomes
saved.