Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

The Christian Home

The home can even be in the slums and gutters or can be the bus stop, provided it is a place
where two people who love each other have agreed to live and raise a family they can equally
love.

And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man’s life

consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.

Luke 12:15

Importance of the Home to the Husband and Wife

1. A place of relaxation––for the man.


2. A shield and an insulation from the world and its pressures––for the woman.


3. A place of refreshing and strengthening––for both.


4. A place of training for the children.^1

4 Steps to Developing a Christian Home

A happy balanced home is always the dream of brides and bridegrooms. However, many
people never experience the joy and bliss they strive for when they decide to get married. A
happy home does not just happen. It must be developed. Nothing happens by chance! It does
not drop from the sky.^2

Where no oxen are, the crib is clean: but much increase is by the strength of the

ox.

Proverbs 14:4

1. Christ must be acknowledged as the foundation and head of the home.

Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew

you to whom he is like: He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep,

and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat

vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a

rock.

Luke 6:47,48

When God is the focus of the couple, they draw closer to each other because their closeness to
God draws them to each other (Fig. 2). As a result of that, they end up having a happy home.^3

When God is the focus of just one of them, they do not get closer (Fig. 3). In some cases, they neither
grow apart nor draw closer (Fig. 5) but their relationship is stale, and their home is not a really
happy one.

In the case where both the husband and wife are following their own dreams, and they are not
involving God in their lives (Fig. 5), they grow further and further apart and this often leads to
a broken home.