Homekeeping and House Helps
- Be aware that female house helps may pose a sexual danger in the house for your
husband. As such you must take certain precautions and institute some measures:
(a) Let her dress properly, e.g., wear bras, no wearing of sexy shorts,
transparent nighties etc.
(b) When the house help is male, the wife must be careful about the things
she wears in his presence.
(c) The female house help must not replace the wife in any way. Note that a
gradual replacement in any form can become a permanent (total) replacement.
And Leah said, A troop cometh: and she called his name Gad. And Zilpah
Leah’s maid bare Jacob a son.
Genesis 30:11-12
(d) This is because service is beautiful, so as the house help continues to do it
for the husband, she gradually becomes attractive to him.
- Don’t easily dismiss stories of affairs between a husband and the maid. These
things are real.
- Some maids come into the home with an agenda to take over. This may be
physical or spiritual (wizards & witches). You must therefore be very spiritual in
choosing a house help.
- In spite of all the negative things that can be said about maids/helps, a good one
is very helpful for your continued activity in church and in other areas and also to
help you fulfil all your other roles.^2
Notes
- Robert Lewis and William Hendricks, Rocking the Roles(Colorado Springs, Colorado:
NavPress Publishing Group, 1991), 92 - 95.
- See also Joshua Adjabeng, Love and Sex in Marriage(Accra, Ghana: Olive Pub., 2001),
54 - 55.
