Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Model Marriage

14. He may be dedicated and self-sacrificing.


15. He is faithful and loyal, making him productive.


16. He is very tidy.


17. May be so consumed with looking for the perfect partner that he may be slow in
    choosing one.^1

Weaknesses of a Melancholic Husband

1. His first reaction to anything is negative. He suffers from negative thoughts and
   worsens the problem by verbalizing them and this devastates his wife, children and
   friends.


2. His temperament is termed “the dark temperament” because he suffers from depression
   often.


3. He is constantly examining his spiritual life and coming up short in his own mind,
   even though he is most likely to be more devoted than others.


4. He lacks confidence.


5. He needs to be motivated externally by God, by others or by projects. Most of the
   prophets in the Bible appear to have been melancholic e.g. Moses and Elijah.


6. He is subject to mood swings and can be very sensitive.
   
   
   • He is prone to be an introvert and also has a variety of moods.
   
   
   • He may act extroverted at times and be gloomy and depressed at other
     times.
   
   
   • When he is gloomy, he becomes withdrawn and antagonistic.
   
   
   
   


7. He may be stiff and calculating and not generous.


8. He keeps a lot within, which comes out suddenly.


9. He sees the negative side of things and is critical, making it difficult to stay with him.


10. He may not talk much at home.


11. He needs a lot of love.
    
    
    • Disappointing experiences make him reluctant to take people at face value.
    
    
    • He is often suspicious when others seek him out or shower him with
      affection.
    
    
    • He needs to be told he is wanted and loved.
    
    
    
    


12. He may appear unbearable.


13. He finds it difficult to forgive.


14. He is very choosy about dressing, colours and what to eat.


15. He is picky and constantly arranging things. He resents a wife who is untidy.2