What it Means to Have a Phlegmatic Husband or Wife- She needs a sense of worth. Phlegmatics feel inferior and unloved when there is
constant criticism.- She may easily assume guilt for all the problems in the marriage.
- She finds it hard to love someone whose main interest is making sure
she is the one who is wrong. Phlegmatics wilt under criticism.
- She may live in continual hurt, pain and confusion because phlegmatics like to avoid
conflict. - She is difficult to arouse sexually:
- She rarely initiates sex on her own.
- She is passive, cadaveric.
- She does not introduce variety and needs to learn to be interested and
exciting about sex.
- She does not communicate the truth about her feelings:
- She can live a life of deception.
- She tries to get others to address her problems.
- She can become passive in her marriage as time goes on.
- She struggles with decision-making and as such feels unsure of herself underneath
the surface.
- Since phlegmatics hardly share their true feelings, she usually will not confront
issues head on. - She will often use subtle sarcasm and criticism to hurt her partner, sometimes in
front of people.
- She lacks motivation, loves procrastinating, and is prone to forget dates and
appointments. - She is usually slower to stand up for herself and others, and is often slow to anger.
- She waits for crisis before she acts, because she always hopes someone else will solve
the situation or that it will all go away by itself.^4
Notes- Tim LaHaye, I Love You But Why Are We So Different?(Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House
Publishers, 1991), 47, 50. - Ibid.
- Joyce Meyer, Help Me,Iām Married! (Fenton, Missouri: Warner Books, 2000), 232
- Ibid.