365 Steps to Self-confidence: A Complete Programme for Personal Transformation - in Just a Few Minutes a Day

365 STEPS TO SELF-CONFIDENCE

Eyes are very expressive.

■ Lively, sparkling eyes are attractive. They say, ‘Talk to me, I’m

approachable.’

■ Looking away shows disinterest or deviousness.

■ Looking down conveys submission.

Confident people make more frequent eye contact than people who are

unsure of themselves, so develop a steady gaze. When you enter a room

move around comfortably, smile and make gentle eye contact with

everyone; not too much, not too little.

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Your breathing is very important too. You can calm down instantly and

become less tense and anxious by taking your attention to the breath,

slowing and deepening it.

Practise calming the breath. Slow breaths and a steady gaze,

combined with an anchor such as ‘Cool, calm and relaxed’, can combat

nervousness any time, wherever you are and whoever you’re with.

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Make better use of your personal space. Try to make yourself bigger.

The more room you appear to occupy, the more confident and

important you appear. But moving too close to others is unsettling, so

don’t get too near.

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Try ‘steepling’. Join your fingertips to form what looks like a church

steeple. This communicates authority and gives the impression you’re

sure of what you’re saying.

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