6 DETERMINATION
‘If you head towards your goal with courage and
determination, all the powers of the universe will
come to your aid.’
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Write a few notes on the advantages of staying as you are and not ”
becoming more confident, both for yourself and others. For example,
your friends and family may prefer you passive and compliant. What
reasons are there for remaining in your present comfort zone?
You’ll find this exercise remarkably thought-provoking.
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List at least ten benefits to you personally of your becoming more
confident. How much ‘pleasure’ will it bring? Think about your work,
your career, your social relationships and family life, leisure pursuits,
health, and your mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
Then add the benefits of your increase in confidence to other people.
For example, your family could benefit in numerous ways from being
associated with a new, more confident you.
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List at least ten reasons why staying as you are is unacceptable. What
will you miss out on? How much ‘pleasure’ will you forego?
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Now consider the price to be paid – the time, effort, stress and
uncertainty – that accompanies change. Consider these questions:
■ What must I do to build my confidence?
■ What price must I expect to pay for becoming more confident?
■ How much effort will it take? How much effort am I willing to make?
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