No matter how you feel about it, as an adult you are totally responsible for the
way you respond to everything that happens. Thinking otherwise just keeps you
stuck in a victim pattern. Confidence and inner peace will only be yours when you
stop blaming and practise forgiveness.
Who is there to forgive? Anyone whom you have ever blamed for how your life
has turned out including, of course, your parents or guardians. After all, they had
parents too! They were products of their own conditioning. They too may have
suffered from low self-esteem or been under stress, and if they hurt you it was
probably because they didn’t know any better.
Besides, forgiveness doesn’t mean condoningwhat was done, only that you are
willing to live with whatever happened. And whether the perpetrators deserve to
be forgiven is irrelevant; they may be completely culpable.
But you don’t do it for them. You do it for yourself.
You’re only hurting yourself by hanging on to the bitterness and resentment
you’ve been carrying around with you.
Forgiveness is not necessarily easy, but is absolutely essential if you are to grow in
maturity, self-esteem and confidence. It’s how you set yourself free.
Forgive, forget and
be free