Mastering the Art of Success
always available because sometimes they’re going through problems
also; but ther e’s always someone with a helping hand.
Often I think we let our pride get in the way. We let our
stubbornness get in the way. We l et our belief in how the world should
be interfere and g et in our way instead of dealing with how the world i s.
When we get that out of that way then we can start doing that which
we need to do to get where we need to go.WRIGHT
If you could have a platform and tell our audience something you
feel that would help or encourage them, what would you say?CANFIELD
I’d say number one is to believe in yourself, believe in your dreams,
and trust your feelings. I think too many people are trained wrong
when they’re little kids. F or example, when kids are mad at their daddy
they’re told, “You’re not m ad at your Daddy.”
They say, “Gee, I thought I was.”
Or the kid says, “That’s going to hurt,” and the doctor says, “No it ’s
not.” Then they give you the shot and it hurts. They say, “See that
di dn’t hurt, did it?” When that happened to you as a kid, you sta rted to
not trust yourself.
You may have asked your mom, “Are you upset?” and she says,
“No,” but she really was. So you stop learning to trust your perception.
I t ell this story over and over. There ar e hundreds of people I’ve met
who’ve come from u pper class families where they make big incomes
and the dad’s a doctor. The kid wants to be a mechanic and work in an
auto shop because that’s what he loves. The family says, “That’s
beneath us. You can’t do that.” So the kid ends up being an
an esthesiologist killing three people because he’s not paying a ttention.
What he really wants to do is tinker with cars.
I tell people you’ve got to trust your own f eelings, your own
motivations, what turns you on, what you want to do, what makes you
feel good, and quit worrying about what other people say, think, and
want for you. Decide what y ou want for yourself and then do what you
need to do to go about getting it. It takes work.