Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

(Chris Devlin) #1

affectedsomuchthatIhavetogotoapsychiatristfortreatment.Ihave
talkedto my husband about it many times. Ihave begged himnot to
treat meinthis way.Ihaveremindedhimofmy position as'hiswife'
andmyageandthatitisnotproperforhimtojokewithmeinfrontof
otherssothat theyhave alaugh or agoodtime. Ifeel embarrassedin
frontof everybodyand becauseIhavenot everbeen awittyperson. I
cannotcompetewith him.Sincemydemandsarenot beingmetbymy
husband,Iprefertoseparatefrom him.IknowIwillnot hehappyon
my own, but I cannot live with a man who constantly degrades me'.


Allwomenexpecttheirhusbandstorespectthemandallofthemhate
insultsIfsomewomenkeepsilentbeforetheirhusbandshumiliations,it
is not the proof of their satisfaction.


Ifyourespectyourwifeshewilldothesametoyouandthusyourre-
lationshipwill growstronger. You would alsoearn more respectfrom
others.If youmaltreatherandsheretaliates,itisagainyour faultand
not hers.


DearSir!Marryingisnotequaltogettingaslave.Youcannottreata
freeperson asaslave.Yourwifehasmarriedyouinordertolivewith
youandtoshare her lifewith amanwhomsheloves.She expectsthe
samethingsfromyouasyoudofromher.Thereforetreatherinaman-
ner in which you would like to be treated.


"ImamSadiq(AS),quoting hisfather,stated:'Whoevermarriesmust
respecthiswife'.""TheProphet(SA)ofAllahstated:'Whoeverrespectsa
Muslim, Allah would pay him his own respect'."


"TheProphet (SA)ofAllah alsostated:'None wouldrespect women
exceptthe magnanimousones,andnonewouldinsult themexceptthe
ignobleones.'Inaddition,theProphet(SA)ofAllahstated:'Whoeverin-
sults his family, would lose happiness in his life'."'

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