Chapter 4

Kindness

Everyoneisthirstyforfriendshipandkindness.Theyallliketobeloved
byothers.Theheartofahumanbeingthrivesonit.Apersonwhoisnot
lovedbyanyoneregardshimselfasaloneanddeserted.Dearlady!Your
husbandisnotanydifferent.Heisalsoinneedofloveandaffection.Be-
forehismarriagetheloveandaffectionofhisparentsfulfilledthisneed,
butnow,heexpectsyoutofulfilit.Themanlookstowardshisspouseto
findfriendshipandlove,whichisarequirementofallhumanbeings.He
struggleshard toearnalivingandtocomfortyou.Heshareswith you
allthehardshipsoflifeandasyourtruepartnercaresforyourhappiness
even more than your parents. Therefore, express your appreciation to
him and love him, he will love you. Love is a two-way relationship
which unites the hearts.

Atwenty-yearoldboy whohadcometoTehranto studyattheuni-
versity,fellinlovewitha 39 yearoldwidowwhowashislandlady.This
wasbecausethe womanhadfulfilledthe emptyplaceof hismotherin
his heart through her kindness.

If love is mutual, the marital foundation becomes strong and the
dangersof separationareaverted.Donot proudlythinkthatyourhus-
bandfellinlovewithyouatfirstsight,becausesuchloveisnotlasting.
Alastingloveisthroughkindnessandpermanentaffectionintheform
of a very close friendship.

Ifyouloveyourhusbandandhaveagoodfriendshiphewillbehappy
andwilling to strive andsacrifice himselffor your well-being. A man
who enjoysthe love ofhis wife,rarelysuffersfrompoor healthorhas
emotionalproblems.If amanisdeprivedof awarmandfriendlyrela-
tionshipwith hisspouse,he maybecome disheartenedandmayavoid
hishome.Hemayendupspendingagreatdealoftimeoutofhishome