facedwiththeunhappyeventsoflife,onewouldnotbecomeannoyedor
angry.
Supposethatyouhaveexperiencedanunpleasantevent.Thiseventis
eitheraninseparablepartofdailyeventswithwhichwecannotinterfere
orthatwecannothelp.Oritmightheaneventinwhichwecanthrust
our own decision.
Itisobviousthatintheformercase,ourannoyancewouldnothelpin
anyway. We would he wrong to become angry or bad-tempered. We
mustrememberthatwewerenotresponsibleforitsoccurrenceandeven
trytowelcomeitwithasmilingface.Butifourbadexperienceisofthe
latter type, then we can seek a suitable solution for it.
Ifwedonot loseheartwhenfacedwith hardshipsandtrytocontrol
ourselves, wecan,through prudence, overcomeourdifficulties.In this
waywewouldnotresorttoangerwhichmayitselfaddtoourproblems.
Therefore, a wise person is the one who is not affected by hardships.
Wehavethe abilitytoovercomealldifficulties throughpatienceand
wisdom.Isitnotapitythatwelosecontrolovermattersresultingfrom
inevitable events of life?
Moreover, why should you blame your wife and children for your
misfortunes?Yourwifeisperforminghershareofduty.Shehastotake
careofthehouseandthechildren.Shehastodothewashing,cooking,
ironing, cleaning,etc. You should encourage her in the way you treat
her.
Yourchildrenarealsodoingtheirownwork.They toowait fortheir
fathertomake themselveshappy. Teachthemtheright thingsanden-
courage them in their studies.Is it fair that you confront your family
with a grim and angry face?
Theyexpectyoutofulfiltheirrighteousdesires.Theyexpectkindness
from you and want you to talk to them gently and behave pleasantly.
They would hate youfor ignoring theirfeelings andfor turningthe
houseintoadarkplaceinwhichthereisnotaglimpseofhappiness.Do