Chapter 48

Picking up Quarrels

Some men are constantly seeking excuses to pick up fault with
everything.Theymoanateverytrivialmatter:"Whyisthistabledirty?
Whyisthelunchnotready?Whyisthatvasehere?HaveInotsaidbe-
fore that ashtrays should not be on the floor?" etc...

Some men take this attitude so far that it causes rows andquarrels
withintheir family, andsometimes a familybreakdown as a result of
theirbehaviour.Ofcourse wearenor sayingthat mendonothavethe
righttotelltheirwiveswhattodoandwhatnottodo.Inthefirstpartof
thisbook, womenwererecommended toacknowledgethisright.There
westatedthatwomenshouldnotshowstubbornnesstowardstheirhus-
bands' suggestions regardinghousehold affairs. However, men should
keeptheirlogicandwisdom.Theyare theirfamilies'guardians andas
such they should act properly.

If amanwants to successfully participatein theaffairs of the house
thenheshoulddosoinacalculatedmanner.Asamatteroffact,sincea
mandoesnothaveenoughtimetoparticipateinallthemattersregard-
inghishouseandbecausehelacksthenecessaryexpertiseinthisconnec-
tion,then itis tohis advantage toleave the housework tohis wife, A
man should leave his wife at liberty with regard to running the house.

Mencan,however,underthepretextofconsultation,notforcefully,re-
mindtheirwivesaboutcertainpoints.Onceawisewomanfindsouther
husband's wishes about any matter, she would try to conform with
them.Therefore,amanandawomanwhocareforeachotherandtheir
family, can through talking together in a kind manner, reach many
agreementsonallmatters.Inthisway,mostwomenarepreparedtocon-
form with their husbands' occasional demands.