insearchoffriendsandattention.Hemaysaytohimself:"WhyshouldI
workandsupportthepeoplewhodonotlikeme.Imightaswellenjoy
myself and try to find genuine friends."
Awomanmaysincerelyloveherhusband,butdoesnotshowitorex-
pressitveryoften.Itisnotenoughtoestablishthetiesoffriendshipand
takeitforgranted. Occasionalexpressions of statementssucha "Ilove
you,""Imissedyou,""Iamhappytoseeyou,"helpenormouslyinpro-
motingagoodrelationship.Whenthehusbandisonatrip,the woman
should writeletters expressing that she missedhim. If there is a tele-
phoneattheman's office,the wifeshouldphonehimoccasionally, but
notinexcess.She shouldpraisehimamongfriendsandrelativeswhen
he is absent, and defend him if anyone is talking against him.
TheAlmightyAllahreferstothisbondofloveandaffectionofahus-
band andwifein theQur'an:"Andone of Hissigns isthatHe created
matesforyoufromyourselvesthatyoumay findrestinthem,andHe
putbetweenyouloveandcompassion;mostsurelytherearesignsinthis
for a people who reflect (30:21)."
"Imam Rida (AS) stated: 'Some women are blessings for their hus-
bands who express their love and affection'."'
"The Holy Prophet (SA) stated 'The best of you among women are
thosewhopossessloveandaffection'."'"ImamSadiq(AS)stated:'When
you love someone, let the person know'."