Thushismotherandsister'(s)specificallyfeeloffended.Theyregard
theirnewbrideasathreatwhowouldbe takingtheiryoungboyaway
fromthem.They mightevenblametheirbrideforseparatingtheirboy
from his family.
Mothers may sometimes thinkthat the best way of confronting this
dangerisbyimplementingwaysofblessingtheirsons'affectiontowards
their wives. A mother of this kind would then start to point out her
daughter-in-law'sdeficiencies,spread liesabout her,speak defamatory
words about her, conspire against her, etc.
If a man is simple or naive, he might even be influenced by his
mother's defamatory statements. He would then become a tool in the
handsofhisfamilyafterwhichhewouldloseinterestinhiswife.Under
hisparents1influence,the manwouldstarttomoanandpickupfaults
with his wife. He would criticise her on any possible occasion.
Asaresult,thefamilyhousecouldturnintoacoldanddullplace.In-
stigation’sof menbytheirmothers andsisterscouldlead to rowsand
evenfightsbetweenamanandhiswife.Awifeinthisconditionmight
resort to drastic measures such as committing suicide.
"Anewlymarriedwomanswallowedpinsattheendofherfirstweek
ofmarriage.Afteranoperationonhertoremovethepinsfromherstom-
ach,shesaidinthehospital:'Aboutaweekago,Iwasmarried.ThedayI
enteredthe houseof myhusband, Ifeltas luckyasothermarriedwo-
men.Butafteronlyafewdays,myhusbandandhissisterstartedcriti-
cisingme.Theirattitudemadelifeverydifficultforme.FinallyIdecided
to kill myself and swallowed a few pins'."
'A woman who was frustrated with the criticisms of her husband's
brothers, set fire on herself and died of severe burns.'
'Anewlymarriedwomanbecamesofrustratedwiththe badattitude
of her mother-in-law that she burnt herself to death.'
Therefore,criticisms,badattitudes,anddefamatorywordsofmothers,
sistersandbrothers-in-lawcanbeveryharmfulandthusamanmustbe
awareoftheirnuisance.Ofcourseitisnotpossibletostoppeoplefrom
talking but it is possible to neutralise their talks.