Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

(Chris Devlin) #1

Amanmustbeawarethatcriticismsabouthiswifebyhismother,sis-
ter,etcarenotmeanttobesympatheticandoutofgoodintentions,but
the main reasons are jealousy, enmity, selfishness, etc.


Hemustrememberthatbecausehiswifedrawsmuchofhisattention
towards herselfhis family envies her andregards her asa usurper of
theiryoungman.Therefore,theyresorttowaysofpreventingtheirlove
to grow.


DearSins!Inbrief,mothers, sisters,andbrothersof thiskindarenot
botheredwithyour happiness,butrather theyareconcernedwiththeir
owninterests.Iftheywereconcernedwithyourhappiness,theywould
have done something different.


Itisverystrangethatparentsmakeagreatdealof complimentsofa
womanwho wants to marrytheir son,but oncetheirson marriesthat
woman, the parents turn completely the opposite way.


DearSirs!Donotbedeceived.Thosedeficienciesthatyourfamilyset
forthforyourwifearenotrelevant;andeveniftheyarenottrivial,then
remember that nobody is perfect. Anyway, are your sister, mother or
others who criticise your wife, themselves perfect beings?


Payingattentiontotheirslanderousstatementswouldonlyadversely
affectyourfamilylife.Youmightevenendupwithadivorceasaresult
of which you would suffer mentally and economically.


Are-marriagewouldnotbeeasy.Evenifyoufindanotherwomanto
marry,itisnotatallobviousthatsheisanybetterthanyourformerwife.
Howdoyoumakesurethatyourfamilywouldnottreatherasbadlyas
they did with your former wife?


Soitisbetterforyoutotell yourmother,sisterandothersrightnow
thatyourwifesuitsyouandthatyouloveher.Youmustdeclaretothem
thattheyshouldstopcriticisingyourwifeorelseyour wifeorelse you
wouldcutoffyourrelationshipwiththem.Oncetheyfeelyourfirmatti-
tude,they would stoptheir instigate attitude andyoumay find peace
with your wife.

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