Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

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Butunfortunately,somemothersandsistersdonotgiveupeasilyand
resortto maliciousaccusationssuchasadultery. Theproblem becomes
soseriousthatamanmight, basedonhismother'sstatements,divorce
his wife or even kill her.


"A youngcouple tooktheir divorceapplication toa court in Tabriz.
The man said in the court: 'My wife writes love-letters to my brother
who lives in Isfahan. I found a few of her letters last night'. Hiswife
whilecrying,said:'Mymotherandsister-in-lawdonotlikemeandcon-
stantly disturbme.Butnow that their mischievous deeds havenot af-
fectedmyhusband,theyhaveforgedsomelove-lettersandhaveplaced
theminmywardrobeinordertoinstigatehimtodivorceme'.Thecourt
reconciled the couple with each otherand advisedthe man to tell his
mother and sister to stop their malicious acts towards their bride."


"Athirty-fouryear oldwomanemptied a canof keroseneon herself
andsetherselfonfire.Neighbourssoonputthefireoutandtookherto
the hospital. She saidin the hospital: 'Ilivewith myhusband andhis
mother.Sheconstantlypicksupfaultwithme.Sheraisesexcusesandis
veryfuriousinnature.Shedoesnotmissanopportunitytocreatearow
betweenmeandmyhusband.YesterdayIwentforshoppingandacci-
dentallymetone ofmyoldschoolfriends.Wetalkedawhileandthen
returned home. My mother-in-law started questioning me asto why I
waslate?Iexplainedbutshewasnotsatisfied.ShesaidthatIwaslying
andthatIwashavinganaffairwiththebutcherinourstreet.Igotfuri-
ous and felt so frustrated that I decided to kill myself'.


Therefore,a manshouldalways be awareof such allegationswhich
wouldhavedisastrousends.Heshouldmakeenquiriesaboutthempa-
tiently and not jump to conclusions blindly. Of course one's parents
workhardandsufferagreatdealinbringinguptheirchildrenandthus
makethembecomethecentreofalltheirhopes.Theyexpecthimtobea
helping hand forthem in their old age andtheir expectations are just
that.Soitisnotfairthatwhenonegainsindependence,heshouldforget
abouthisdutiestowardshisparents.Heshouldattendtotheirrightful
wisheseven afterheismarried.Hemustmaintaintheirrespectandbe
humblebeforethem.Heisduty-boundtohelpthemmoneywiseifthey
ever needed it. He should not cut off his relationship with them and
mustinvitethemtohishouse.Hemustdemandhiswifeandchildrento
showtheirrespect forthem. Hemustmakehis wifeunderstandthat if

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