In brief it is not always the mother-in-Jaw who is guilty but men
shouldbewiseenoughtobefriendthem.Therearemanymenwhoenjoy
a goodrelationship with their mothers-in-law."Mr Manuchehrwrites:
'Mymother-in-lawis anangeloreven better. Iloveher morethanmy
own mother,becausesheiskindandunderstanding.Shealways helps
uswithourproblems.Herexistenceisaguaranteeofmyfamily'shappi-
ness and prosperity."
Evenifamanhasamother-in-lawwhoisstubborn,ignorantandim-
possibletoreconcile with,heshouldnottreat herharshly.Thiskindof
womenmaymakeone'slifedifficult,butitisalwaysbettertoreactsoftly
towards their improper behaviour. This is because, by treating them
kindly, one could minimise the danger to One's marriage.
Meanwhile,themanshouldgetclosertohiswifeandshouldmakeher
trusthim.Hemustdiscusshermother'swrongdeeds withher,andlo-
gicallyprovetoher,theirundesirableconsequences.If amanisableto
createadeepunderstandingwithhiswife,thenmanyproblemsinclud-
ing the one with his mother-in-law would hesolved. So do not forget
goodmanners be wise and treat your wife's familykindly inorder to
have a successful marriage.
ImamAli(AS)stated:'DevelopingfriendshipishalfofwisdomImam
Ali (AS) also stated: 'Associating with people and treating them with
goodmannerswouldpreventonefromcommittingbaddeedsandmis-
chievousacts".ImamAli(AS)stated:'Associatewitheachotheranddo
good. Keep away from sulking and separation."