"ImamSadiq (AS)stated: 'A womanwho respects her husband and
does not harass him, will be fortunate and prosperous'."'
"TheHolyProphet(SA)stated:'Awifeisduty-boundtoarrangefora
basin and towel to wash her husband's hands'."
Becarefulnottohumiliatehim,donottalktohimharshly,donotab-
usehim,donotbeinattentivetohim,anddonotcallhimbyanyobscene
titles.Ifyouoffendhim,he,inturn,willinsultyou.Eventually,thespirit
ofloveandtrustwillerode.Consequently,youwillhaveconstantquar-
relsandargumentswhichmayleadtoadivorce.Evenifyoucontinueto
livetogether, your liveswill surely be filled with many turbulent mo-
ments.Feelingsofantagonismandpsychologicaldisturbancesmaybuild
upto thepointthat itbecomeshazardous to thecouple's lifeinthat it
may lead to crime. The following stories, illustrate some of these points:
"A twenty-two year old man, stabbed his 19-year old wife to death
after he was abused by her. In the court he said:
'Iwasmarriedto thiswomana yearago. At the beginningmywife
lovedmeverymuch.Butitwasnotlongbeforeshechangedandstarted
tohumiliateme.Shewoulduseabusivelanguagewithmeoneverypos-
sibleoccasionandoverthesmallestissue,wouldmakefunofme.Dueto
asquint inmy lefteye,sheusedtocall mea "blindass".Oneday she
calledmea"blindass"andIbecamesofuriousthatIstabbedherfifteen
times with a knife'."
"A seventy-one year old man who had killed his wife, explained:
'Suddenlyher mannerstowardsme changedandshestarted to ignore
me.Onceshecalledme"anintolerableman".Irealisedthatshedidnot
loveme anymore;Ibecamesuspiciousof her andkilledher with two
blows of an axe'."